Tips for Maintaining a Relationship/Friendship

When it comes to our physical and mental health, friendship may truly be the best medicine. Good relationships relieve stress, provide comfort and joy, prevent lonliness and isolation, and even strengthen your overall quality of life. Here are some tips on how to maintain a friendship/relationship: 

  • Appreciate each other. Showing that you appreciate one another is a great way to keep a relationship healthy and happy. Just by saying things you love about them truly makes the difference. Tell them you appreciate them. It'll make their day.
  • Make promises that you can really keep. In order to avoid disappointments, try to make promises that you can keep. Even though we wish we could keep promises that are beyond our ability, sometimes we can't. Just remember to set realistic expectations.
  • Get creative about the time you spend together. There are so many things to do on and off campus. Do something you wouldn't typically do together and try something new.
  • Seek to understand...not agree. Choose to approach a tough conversation as an opportunity to understand their perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent lingering frustration.
  • Concentrate on the present to ensure your future. The ability of your relationship/friendship to endure tough times has a lot to do with your mutual availability in the here and now. Take some time to really be there for your friend/partner, even when you feel you don’t have time.
  • Be open and honest. It’s important to be open and honest right from the beginning. If there’s something bothering you, keeping it a secret isn’t going to help anyone. Honesty is key.
  • Motivate each other to be the best version of yourselves. Always push your loved ones to never give up and continue to grow. Everyone is always experiencing changes and when you have support, it not only makes your relationship healthier but it also leads you to greater confidence.  
  • Always lend a shoulder to lean on. You never know what someone may be going through. Whether it is a stressful problem in school or a personal issue, always be there for someone if they need to talk. Be that person they can confide in. 
  • Be silly with each other. Laugh, dance, or even sing ridiculously loud throwbacks during a drive. Doing these little acts of fun will break many boundaries you may have in a relationship/friendship. You will see a different side of a person and create some of the greatest memories with each other. 
  • Show your warmth. Find little ways to show each other you care. Little tokens of appreciation go such a long way. It will make your loved ones happy and will help you realize more of the great things they do. 
  • Celebrate each other’s accomplishments and successes. Everyone likes to be praised when they do a job well done. Tell your loved ones how proud you are of them and motivate them to do even better every day. Be the support you would want in return.